Sunday, November 13, 2011

22 Sparkly Ways to Shine your Inner Bling by Christine Kane

Sometimes you want lots o’ bling. Sometimes a little bit goes a long way.

You never need bling, though.

Trust me on this.

I’ve performed over 1500 shows in my career. And I’ve learned that your shine has very little to do with what’s on the outside and everything to do with what’s on the inside.

No matter what they say on What Not to Wear, authentic bling comes from deep within. It comes from a life of purpose, happiness, peace, action, and stillness.

Here are 22 ways to get that shine, sparkle, and bling from the inside out:

1 – Start everything with intention
Inner bling comes from knowing why you do what you do and who you want to be. Intention is a simple way of getting centered before you begin any activity or show up for any event or write any email or blog. Intention sets your energy. Your energy creates your outcomes.
{I think it would be good to concentrate a little more on my intention}

2 – Know your motivations
Why do you do what you do? What’s motivating you?
When you know your motivations, you get clear on how to clean up your core. For instance, early in my music career, I realized that I often acted out of desperation. (Fear of not getting/being enough.) When I saw this, I began to shift away from these choices. My actions got “cleaner.” And the results were more powerful. Sometimes I couldn’t shift. I was stuck. But it helped to recognize the motivation and be kind to myself once I realized that I wanted to come from a clearer place.
{Most often, I act out of desperation, get the day done, earn the cash, sort out the kids and hope for the best.  But there must be more to it, part is that I want to prove I can do it, I can't fail, I have to be mom irrespective and I need the money to put food in their mouths.}

3 – Forgive yourself your fears
We all have them. We’ve all gone through them. Be kind to yourself about your fears. Then, take action anyway.

4 – Eat more greens
Physical health is the best bling of all. Take time to learn how to create healthy meals of mostly vegetables and fruits. Eliminate processed foods as much as possible.
{I eat the greens, I love the greens - but I guess more wouldn't hurt}                                                                                                                                                                                 
5 – Make a “Here’s What I Love” list
Fun is imperative for shiny bling. The problem is that we often don’t know what we love to do. It’s typical to think of the usual suspects: going to the movies, getting a pedicure, or going to the beach. But what do you love? Is it ping-pong, NASCAR, gardening? Make your own list so you can always refer to it and add to it.
{I'm sure, that with some exploring, I'd find something I've never done before that I'd love - I think it may just be what I need right now.  Something to ignite my fire, interest, passion}

6 – Do at least 1 item on your “Here’s what I love” list each week.

7 – Take risks
Taking risks gets easier once you take them. Too many people make risk-taking an event. They walk across burning coals, or bungee jump. For me, the biggest risks – the ones that teach me the most – are the quiet daily risks I take. From writing songs, to enrolling in an on-line course, to trying a new blog idea. These risks build that muscle inside of me slowly.

Walking across hot coals is fine. But it’s a lot like deciding to get in shape, and then lifting 100 pounds all at once. It’s the constant practice of something that teaches you how to do it and how to be bling-y all over.

8 – Laugh more
The more you laugh, the more bling you get. Make time for friends who make you laugh.
{I love laughing ... at work I think most people hear me at least once a day ... }

9 – Get a dog
Or a cat. Pets teach you how to be in your heart space. They teach unconditional love. I found my dog just after I committed to healing depression once and for all. She has been one of my greatest healers.
{We have dogs, but I am owned by a big ginger kitty - he's so special the little grumpy boy that he is}

10 – Sleep when you’re tired
This might seem like a no-brainer. But I’ve worked with hundreds of people at my retreats and in my e-Seminars on this. So many of them will keep going and going, trying to function when they’re exhausted. They usually end up eating junk food or watching hours of television, rather than giving their body what it really needs – rest.

11 – Get moving
Regular work-outs are one of the best ways to get bling.
According to one study, when you do a 30-minute cardio work-out: “2 – 3 pounds are lost from sweat, 70% of muscle fibers are working (up from 5 – 50% at rest); increased blood flow to brain heightens alertness; endorphin rush reduces anxiety and boosts moods.” Lifting weights keeps me in an elevated and peaceful mood all day.
{I've been doing morning exercises, but need to get out and get the blood pumping, cardio is sorely lacking}

12 – Say no unless it’s an absolute and pure YES
I get many emails from people who have been to one of my retreats or participated in the e-Seminar. They thank me for giving them permission to begin saying no to everything that’s not an absolute yes in their schedule or in their environment. I learned it from Cheryl Richardson. I get to pass it on now that I’ve been practicing for many years.

13 - Create a Vision Board
{Mine needs some refreshment - do you have one?  Amazing to look back and see what you've accomplished}

14 – Break up with your television
Or at least, just turn off the cable. TV is an energy suck. It will dull your bling. 
{I think I'll send it the divorce papers today}

15 – Clean up your physical space
{Working hard on decluttering - it's clean, but lots of clutter blockages}

16 – Stand naked in front of the mirror every morning and say, “Damn, I love myself!”
Hey. Don’t knock it til you try it.
{This is a stretch for 99% of the people I know - myself included - some days I look at myself dressed and say "Not too bad ol' girl" but naked ... hmmmm}

17 – Watch your Language {Follow the link and read this ... I honestly try to practise this}

18 – Revel in your imperfections
I’m not exaggerating when I tell you that my friend Joy hangs up on me almost every single time she calls me. She simply can’t do technology. She’s a disaster on the computer. And last week, she snipped the chord to her iPod headphones with her gardening shears. The best thing, though, is to hear her laugh at herself each time some new mini-disaster happens. She revels in her own imperfections. And she is definitely bling-y.

We all have our areas of imperfections. Forgive yourself, and keep on doing it. Anything worth doing is worth doing. You’ll get the hang of it.

19 – Be totally present to the one you’re with
Your attention is gold sparkly rhinestone bling. Your attention is incredibly powerful. It is a gift to you and to anyone who spends time with you. Be present – fully present – to anyone you spend your time with.
{I have been battling with being present for ages, seems my mind is running in a 101 directions all the times with things to do}

20 – Read for fun
When you’ve got a good book to read at the end of the day, you always have something to look forward to no matter what happens.

21 – Go on retreat
My friend Joy does a silent retreat at least three times a year. She swears that it’s the secret to her blingy-ness. I believe that any kind of intentional retreat can do the trick. Silent retreats. Yoga retreats. Meditation retreats. Or even Great Big Dreams Retreats!
{I've wanted to go on a silent retreat for a while now, maybe it's time now, to clear my head, plot my direction, figure out my life. }

22 – Decide to be bling-y
Sometimes, it just comes down to making the choice to shine no matter what.

Christine Kane is the Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World. She helps women uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly LiveCreative eZine goes out to over 20,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at http://christinekane.com.
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1 comment:

  1. Great advice. I knew some of your tips but learned from others.

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